Charles Benz: Professional Counselor and Coach

Integrative Personal and Spiritual Development Plus Sacred Ceremonies of All Kinds

What’s Important. The “C” Word.

Re "C".   The "C" stands for cancer but I eschew it s=use. I wish not to empower its ability to frighten and disturb people, or myself. Of course it depends on the type of "C" contracted and the medical prognosis that goes with it, but today for most people it is a 'normal' or norm in our society to go to the medical team you want treating your "C."  As I said, I use "C" rather than the full word, not to empower it in my mind, or reinforce Read more [...]

Entrance Upon a Journey

Entrance was obtained through first ignoring a sore throat for several months.  Then when its persistence bothered me I went to an Urgent Care clinic. Strep infection was eliminated quickly.  I was referred to a private oncologist.   She did the biopsy that led her in my follow-up visit to gleefully burst into the patient exam room with her results.  I'd returned after a week's time, and she beamed" Yes; it's malignant," like she'd just discovered Read more [...]


It's been quite a while.  I'm back -- to write. To answer the question: how does one tell a story revisited, backwards.  I might have chronologed this passage through its course day by day or week by week, as many others have. I'm ten weeks out from the end of "C/R."  Chemotherapy and radiation therapy.   Cysplatin and 200 therms of x-ray heat  30 times at 7 minutes and 10 second per treatment.  Six weeks times five days a weeks equals thirty R Read more [...]

Say “Hi” to your Dragon?”

Walt Disney was a person in touch with his "Inner Child," that psychological concept made popular back in the 80's. Disney Corp to this day keeps churning out movies made of myth and magic that still draw millions of kids and families to the cinema. The hidden messages of most of these films turn on the part of our psyches that are strongly attuned to this level of our minds.  Little kids love stories of fantasy and magic in their story books.  Read more [...]


Mine is today.  The number doesn't matter. A friend reminded me yesterday I might treat my "arrival anniversary" as a New Years Day - a day to reflect and make plans, goals, resolutions for the year to come. So I resolve to nurture and love my Inner Child with greater care and understanding of His fears and pains out of which He too often projects frustration and anger to be heard over the raucousnes or slings and arrows that have befallen Him Read more [...]

“Blades of Glory” : a tale of transformation

"Blades of Glory" is a funny/gross Jungian cartoon in a disturbing but evocative movie.  It is upsetting and  revealing in a good way. A close frined recommneded this movie.  It is the weirdest combination of the ridiculous and the sublime you'll ever see, due mostly to Will Farrell's clown act versus the statements he makes in the flic.  Here's what I saw. Two alter male egos in 'mortal conflict' with each other reconcile by finding a common Read more [...]

Medical Marijuana Shift Means More…

Bottom line: a change in one's state of mind can leads to a new stage of personal growth.  This is what the shift to acceptance of alternative medicinal approaches in the USA means in the bigger picture.  Shifts like this ultimately are personal and usually come through support by others. The federal approval of the clinical medicinal use of cannabinoid is meaningful.  In this news is a deeper wider issue, beyond the huge revenues in this new Read more [...]

Hope, … defined.

It is Truth, Beauty and Goodness that are the basic elements of our Kosmos, our sentient world and Universe, AND you and me!   We know these three through ALL THE MAPS OF HOW WE OPERATE AS HUMANS through our different stages of history, culture and levels of development, the skills and kinds of intelligence that we possess and the types of character that make us the human kaleidoscope that we are, as individuals and collectively.commonly.  Hope Read more [...]

Good Coaching is…..

I coach my clients with questions as tools that probe and examine conscious beliefs and subconscious assumptions.  My coaching may bring these to light or reframe them with you so that you may choose what behaviors and beliefs you want to change for progress toward your goals or objectives, with no judgment by me whatsoever. Many of our family and cultural and religious conventions are based on three bases of human psychological dynamics that Read more [...]

A Worldview Coaching Perspective

AN IMPORTANT EXAMPLE OF EVOLUTIONARY PROGRESS  Blog Posts in a series. Today, 21t century morality has it that one may choose to be all heterosexual or all gay, or Bisexual, and a variety of expressions between the two defining polarities  in the black-and-white stereotypes of the two genders.  It is accepted now that gender alone, Nature, does not define you or me; nor does our Nurture alone.   Other 'energies' in us point out that the Read more [...]